It didn't end.

Maybe it should have, though.

He seems to think that even though we had the conversation, everything will just continue as it always has. Riiiight.

They moved into their new place yesterday. I got there as things were already being moved from the elevator to the truck so I didn't bother to go upstairs - I just jumped in there. I don't know what L was doing upstairs and how much she was helping but I will tell you that when everything was loaded into the truck and we all went to the new house and unloaded, she didn't come with us. When I mentioned that she wasn't there, T said that she was cleaning at the apartment. So basically she got her brother and friends to move her while she did other stuff. They had possession of their apartment until 1 o'clock today so it's not like whatever she was cleaning couldn't have been put off until this morning. But really, why am I surprised?

T didn't call me this whole week. We had our conversation on Monday and he called me on Friday afternoon to find out where I was and when I would be coming to help. Never mind that I had told him on Monday that I had a chiro appointment and wouldn't get there until after 5:30. Why would he listen?

And before anyone thinks that I am being unfair and that I probably forget things that he tell me, yes I admit it. But I do pay attention when we are making plans and he tells me that he can only meet at such-and-such time, or that he has an appointment that evening so we can't meet then. I don't think he really pays any attention to much that I say.

Including the conversation we had on Monday. I think that he thinks that everything will just blow over and will go back to the way it was before. Guess what - it isn't. I am no longer going to spend the majority of "our time" at his house. If he want to see me, he can come to my house. And if she calls him while he's here, it had better be at times that are socially acceptable. And if I do go and spend time at his house, she is not just automatically included in our plans. If he wants to invite her to come somewhere with us, he needs to ask me first if it's okay with me. If he doesn't talk to me first, I will walk out.

I just spoke to my housemate about the whole thing. She gave me some really good advice. She said that I shouldn't ignore her because that uses up too much energy (which is what B said too, dammit). I should be pleasant and treat her like a stranger, like "Hey L. That's a nice outfit." Some kind of generic compliment and then move on. That way, when things do end up blowing up, it will be because of her actions, not mine.

I'm also looking forward to when she tries to initiate play between us again. I know that she also assumes that my mood will pass in regards to her and that one day things will be peachy between us again, and at that point I know that she will ask if we want to play. My housemate said that I should say, "No thanks. You don't turn me on and I have no desire to play with you." Simple, (mostly) polite and irrefutable.

As for T, well. I think I'll give it the good old college try for the next month. If things are still just as stupid on October 31 as they are today, I will give it up as an experience where I learned a lot but ultimately not where I want to live my life.